There are many ways to respect your parents, some of them are:
- Talk to them gently
- Do not raise your voice above theirs
- Fulfil their needs
- Thank them and pray for them
- Do not sit when they are standing.
- Do not walk in front of them unless told to do so.
- Do not speak when they are speaking.
- Never correct them in front of others.
- Do not displease them or make them angry.
- Never insult, argue or shout at them.
- Do not hurt them, even if they are not Muslims.
Prophet Muhammad (S) has said :
"Anyone who hurts his parents hurts me, and anyone who hurts me hurts Allah, and whoever hurts Allah is cursed in Tawrat, Injeel, Zabur and Qur'an."
When you wake up in the morning the first thing you should do is say "Salamun Alaykum" to your parents.
If your parents ask you to do something, like go shopping, you should not even show them that you are tired. You should not even cast a weary glance at your parents.
That is why it is said:
"Looking at the face of your parents with respect is like looking at the Ka'ba, the reward is the same."
One of his prayers for his parents:
- O Lord, bless Muhammad, Your servant and Your Apostle and the holy people of his house.
- Distinguish them particularly with the best of Your Favour, Mercy, Blessings and Peace.
- Distinguish, O Lord, my parents with excel¬lence before You and grace from You, O Most Merciful!
- O Lord, bless Muhammad and his descen¬dants.
- Acquaint me by inspiration with the knowled¬ge of what is due towards them from me.
- Collect for me the complete knowledge of all this.
- Cause me to act according to what You did reveal to me by inspiration.
- Give me grace to penetrate into such of this knowledge as You did teach me until I omit to perform nothing You has taught me. Do not let me limbs grow heavy (so as to prevent them) from the discharge of what You did reveal unto me.
- O Lord, bless Muhammad and his descen¬dants as You have exalted us with him.
- Favour Muhammad and his descendants as You have given us claims upon Your crea¬tion because of him.
- Make me fear my parents as I would fear a severe ruler and love them with the tender¬ness of an indulgent mother.
- Let my obedience to my parents and beneficence to them be sweeter to my eyes than sleep is to the drowsy, cooler to my heart than drinking water is to the thirsty, until I give preference to their wishes over mine and priority to the satisfaction of their needs over mind.
- Let me over value their kindness to me, even in small things and under value my kindness to them, even in great things.
- O Lord, let me lower my voice for them.
- Let my speech be agreeable to them.
- Soften my conduct towards them.
- Let my heart be kind to them.
- Make me tender and lenient unto them both.
- O Lord, reward them for bringing me up.
- Recompense them for loving me.
- Guard them as they guarded me in my in¬fancy.
- O Lord, whatever pain they may have received from me, whatever displeasure may have been caused to them by me or whatever duty owed to them that was left unperformed by me, let that be a pardon of their sins, an exaltation of their rank and an addition to their good deeds.
- O You who does change evil deeds into multiplied good deeds!
- O Lord, that speech in which they were unjust to me, or that action in which they were extravagant against me, or such of my claims as they failed to satisfy, or such debts as they failed to discharge, verily, I forgive it to them, and favour them therewith.
- I turn towards You with a view to removing the penalty thereof from them.
- For verily I do not accuse them falsely of having done something to my hurt, nor do I deem them negligent in doing good to me, nor do I despise the care they took of me, O Lord!
- Because their claim upon me is so great, their benevolence to me so magnificent and I am so highly obliged to them, that I cannot fairly meet it, nor repay them as they deserve.
- O my God, how can I repay them for their tedious employment in bringing me up.
- For their hard labour in guarding me.
- For their self-denial to lavish comfort upon me!
- Alas! Alas! (I cannot).
- Their claim can never be satisfied by me, nor can I perceive what is due from me to them nor can I fully discharge the duty of serving them!
- Therefore, bless Muhammad and his descendants. Help me, O best of all those whose assistance is solicited. Give me grace, O Greatest of Guides, towards whom people turn.
- Do not let me be of those who wronged their fathers and mothers on the day wherein "every soul shall be paid what it has merited and they shall not be treated with injustice."
- O Lord, bless Muhammad and his descendants.
- Distinguish my parents, in particular, with the best distinctions which You have conferred upon the fathers and mothers of Your true believing servants, O Most Merciful.
- O Lord, do not let me forget to remember them after my ritual prayers, at every time of my night and at every hour of my day.
- O God, bless Muhammad and his descendants.
- Forgive me for the sake of my prayers for them.
- Grant a sure pardon to them because of their goodness to me.
- Be perfectly satisfied with them through my intercession for them.
- Bring them by Your Mercy into places of safety.
- O God, if Your Pardon for them has preceded (my prayers), then make them intercessors for me.
- If Your Pardon for me has preceded (Your forgiving them), then make me an intercessor for them so that we may be gathered together by Your Mercy in the place of Your Grace, the place of Your Pardon and Mercy.
- For verily You are the one Whose Munificence is Great, Whose Kindness is Eternal. You are the most Merciful.
To Parents: Sign the box for each day your child recites this du'a.
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